On the Process of Doing

If I die now, you'll have a hint for which god to petition. 

Julian Randall wrote this line in his poem "On the Night I Consider Coming Out to My Parents" when he mentions that he is Black and Dominican and Bisexual.

I have been thinking about labeling of self a lot lately. Of these words we subscribe to so we can find someone who understands: pakistani-american, ex-muslim, fitness nerd, analyst, mathematician, mountain climber, music lover, fashion lover, reader. So many labels so we can find someone who understands numerous facets that are about self and all that feeds is the idea of consumerism. I want people to understand me because I am important. No, it's not quite your turn yet, it is still about me. I am going through a tough time in life so my thoughts, my feelings, should outweigh everything else.

Last year, when I took my trip to San Francisco, I realized the selfish nature of grief. It is a comfortable emotion that blankets you in its warmth and drugs you into thinking it's -40 degrees outside and you need its warmth. The irony? It's a 100 degrees outside and you're running a fever. It is an odd sensation, letting go of that grief. You have a void that needs filling and you don't have an emotion strong enough to counteract it. That is the hardest part about pain. Not necessarily the suffering of it but the void that comes after the suffering is over. The emptiness that follows that coerces you to face yourself.

After I had come back from my Washington trip this year, my dad had said, it's great to travel but the true place you need to travel to is your inner self. See where your thoughts lead you when they are uninfluenced. My uncle had suggested I wake up pre-dawn and make a habit of writing - before I have had coffee, before I have washed my face, before I have taken a single action. The idea is to get your mind as pure as you could and see where it takes you. I have not had the guts to implement that quite yet but I have started working out in the morning recently. I don't make any decisions - I set my outfit the night before, I prepare my workout bag the night before, I order coffee from the Starbucks across the street. I just get up, make my bed, wash my face, brush my teeth, change into my workout clothes, and go.

Alex Honnold describes his routine before a big free solo climb. He mentions that on bigger climbs, he minimizes the number of decisions he has to make so his body can save energy. He describes the process of free soloing El Capitan at Yosemite - climbing a 3000+ feet steep wall without ropes, merely using his body. He mentions that performing a climb like that, you do not want to perform at anything more than 70% of what your body is capable of. This is because you want it to feel natural. You do not want your body to feel fear or discomfort or any emotion that can trigger an insulin response in you and cause you to lose your footing. If you do, you fall off the wall and die - as simple as that.

I cannot help but think of the power of discipline in all this. The discipline required to do something so often that it becomes a part of your routine. You are not a person, in all your labels, who identifies as someone who brushes their teeth, or takes a shower, or fills their gas tank. You don't think about it. It's what you do. Then, if there are things we want to do, we must make them so routine they're almost mindless. You take the decision of whether you want to or need to do this thing or not out of the picture. There is no decision left.

You just do.

Thoughts from Mountains

Motivation is BS. It's all about your routine.

Aisa kahan se laoon ke tujh sa kahein jisay.

Human beings are so futile in front of nature. Nature is so magestic and we are mere mortals. It will live on with us, despite us, without us. That is all. -may 28, 12 pm. After a 7 mile hike to glacier basin.

When I'm in mountains, I don't miss home. Normally, when I go on a trip, I miss home after the second night. When I'm in mountains, I feel peace. This is where I belong, where I'm meant to be. This is home. The peace and quiet away from the loud cities. Your troubles too menial for a mountain. It takes life, it gives life. You are helpless in its angry storms, you find sustenance in its flowing rivers when the snow melts. This is life and all that it encompasses. That's all.

I belong in mountains. They brought me to tears. It was the lack of oxygen on a fast elevation but it feels like a weight off my shoulders. I haven't cried in a long long time. But when you're breathing, trying to fight for your life, you get human emotion in its most raw form. No pretenses, no barriers. Just you and nature and your emotions. What will you hide? What is left to hide when your body is struggling to breathe? Humbling experience. Working out in the gym means nothing when you don't have enough oxygen to breathe. You can get stronger but you cannot produce oxygen your body needs if there isn't enough.

Hitting PRs in a perfect environment is one thing, climbing up a mountain on a 30% incline for 3 miles is a whole different ball game. 

Inaction is action against the victims. As simple as that.

It doesn't matter how much I love a place, no place is Houston. Houston is home because Houston is where my family is.

None of them are you. It's not to say no one will ever be you, or better. But a year later, and no one is you. Being in love is a gift. Loving you was an honor. Being out of love and learning to live with that is the biggest lesson.

Notes from Margaret Atwood

Read your fiction out loud.

If there isn't something there, it's not gonna work. Look for the iron rod, what's the iron rod that's holding it all together? I have thrown away novels where there wasn't any there there. Think about the structure. There's the story and how you tell the story, and those are two very different things. Think of The Iliad and how Achilles starts his story. it starts in the middle of the Trojan War not at the beginning, there's a reason for that. How do you define a story? It's quite simple. Somebody doing something somewhere is a story.

Everybody has the same fear of the blank page but fear can be exciting.

Second book is always the worst because if the first one has been well received, you don't know who might be waiting in the shrubs.

Are there any topics off limit? Everything can be discussed by somebody. Writers shouldn't tackle things that are completely unknown to them. They will screw it up. Although Franz Kafka wrote America without ever having been here. But he was Franz Kafka after all.

Look up Margaret Atwoods review of GOT

The sentence 'this can't happen here' is never one I have ever believed in. It can happen everywhere.

What is the point of publishing if you don't want people interpreting your work?

I was a little less interested in what they looked like as opposed to what they thought, on whether her characters represented on screen are visually better in the movie or the series.

Capitalism without any checks and balances flattens everything in the pot because if the only motive is profit and you keep doing it, there's nothing left...if you turn everything to gold, theres nothing left to eat. Money is abstract, only good for what you can change it into....

Revolution refers to the wheel of Fortune, it revolves but doesn't end up in a horizontal plane where everyone is equal, if you're at the bottom of the wheel it's not very fun.

I would need to know their age and socioeconomic status and profession. Women are, I hate to say this, just like people - On what advice she would give to women.

Thoughts from Miami

1. I had a phone call with an interviewer at the airport while on a girls trip to Miami. I had wanted to grow up into this person. Now it just seems hectic. (I did not accept the job offer.)
2. I am learning to be by myself entirely. No music, no podcasts, no background noise. It's uncomfortable. It's awkward. It forces me to think of things I do not want to think. But I think it's liberating.
3. I am doing things that terrify me. I am hoping that this discomfort leads to better character development.
4. I am learning to listen to the opposite point of view. Two years ago, if someone told me they were not a feminist, I would have shut down entirely around them. I am now listening to their thoughts with curiosity and no judgment. It is hard. It is also rewarding.
5. There is so much in my life that is up in the air right now. None of which I sought out. I need the gym right now to merely function. It's the one place where I have what I need.
6. I spoke to ma on the phone. It was nice. Hearing the voice of your loved ones, even on a trip where you're just having fun, is always welcome. It's nice to know that there are people who will always love you. There are people who you can always come back to.
7. Sitting on a beach, watching people be fearless around water. Makes you almost forget twenty million things happening outside of your bubble. Reminds you of the goals you set when you were fifteen, twenty. And now at twenty-five, the weight of those goals has increased. The stake is a lot higher. In the relationships you build, the choices you make career wise, the life you want to work towards. The fear of failure is greater. As is the fear of success. What happens when you reach your goals. What do you work towards then. From a fitness perspective, from a nutrition perspective, from a mental clarity perspective, I am where I need to be. But there is a weird restlessness in me. As if something great is meant to happen and I need to acquire all the skills I can for it but I don't know if I can be prepared for it.
8. I am giving up the pretense of craftily worded sentences. Of perfect syntax and creative diction. Aesthetics ate the content. I want to say things right. I want to write what I mean. With clarity and precision.
9. There is no such thing as a perfect job. There is only the right job at the moment. There is no such thing as meeting 'the one.' There are only right people for the moment. It is not a negative statement, only a temporary one. Moments, emotions, feelings, thoughts - they are all fleeting things. All you can do is take a deep breath and live.
10. The Lyft driver asked if I was Mexican. Then he asked if I drink since I'm a teenager. We went to a well known Cuban place. The coffee was great, the food terrible. These two guys next to our table started talking to us. One of them worked in IT, other in Medicine. It was odd yet interesting. I love first conversations. There is so much to know about a person. There are no expectations yet, only surprises. Letting go of expectations is hard.
11. The beach gives me a lot of anxiety. The noise from the water, the birds. Probably because I can't swim, I always feel restless. Wonder what it's like to be fearless at the beach. To be able to sit there and not do anything. Such a foreign concept to me. I am always ready to leave. It's like I don't feel like I can take a minute there to catch my breath.
12. I am such a home body. 2 days in a different city and I am already itching to go back home. I miss my shower and my bed and the comfort of my things. I cannot have a job where I travel a lot. I wonder if the need to travel a lot stems from not having a home. Such that you are constantly searching for that place you can one day call home.
13. Randomly remembered this line from Strings' song: Baat kehni bhi hai aur chupani bhi hai.
14. It takes leaving to remember what home is. 

Old Writings 2012 - 2013

So this is the end of a story.

June 5, 2012 at 12:44 AM

I just graduated high school. I am not sure how I feel but I'm letting all the emotions take over me right now. It's surreal. 

You spend four years awaiting this moment, for some, even more than that......and now, it's over?

Years of wait for a 40 second walk across the stage, two pictures, and that's it. 

But isn't that how life works? The best part is in anticipation. The wait. The curiosity of what is to come. And the best moments in life are often defined by the curiosity of what will be.

Like John Green says, we use our future to escape the present. I mean, who knows where we're headed. But it's nice to think about it. Everything seems possible. Everything seems real. 

The thing is, change is good and inevitable. But you still miss the past. You miss the people and the places and the person you were at that point in your life.

When I look back to high school, I see a very ignorant version of me. But it's good because I also see the part of me that constantly tried to become less ignorant. 

I look back and see a person who discovered that writing was her escape. And just the act of discovering it was beautiful. I mean I know that I go through phases of "oh maybe, I can write..." and then "what even. I just want to kill myself because I am an insult to writing." But I guess that is what learning means. To recognize your strengths and weaknesses. 

I was talking to a few friends today about how much fun it would be to travel broke and free. To meet new people, have crazy adventures, and just be spontaneous. A few years ago, this idea would have seemed crazy. Now it sounds just wonderful.

I might be being naive. I mean there are serial killers and rapists out there. Not everyone can be trusted. I might also be neglecting the fact that just being on your own might be the scariest thing ever. But lately I have realized that life is measured by experiences. And there's no relative length that describes an experience. It just depends on you personally. 

I don't know what I am writing anymore or why I am writing this for that matter. But see, I am okay with that. This may have been another thing that I learned in these past four years. It's okay to not know precisely what you're doing or where you're headed. You might find a destination. You might not. But meanwhile, enjoy the scenery.

A few days ago a friend of mine asked me to post my life goals, this was my response: keep walking aimlessly until I find a sojourn so beautiful that it makes me want to stop and stare for a while, and then continue walking.

I guess what I am saying is that I like ambiguity and uncertainty and unknown. 

I feel like I have learned the most about empathy though. People deserve kindness and understanding. I mean, you might meet someone on their worst day. They might have lost someone close or their dreams might have been crushed or they might have found out that they only have a few more breaths, and you see that they are not kind and so you decide that they don't deserve your empathy. When in reality they needed your empathy the most that day. 

I have also realized the importance of people in life. Being surrounded by good people might not eradicate your problems but it just might make it easier to deal with those problems. Same with strangers. I have learned that if a stranger smiles at you randomly or gives you a compliment, it makes your day a lot better. What I am trying to say is that random acts of kindness keep you going. You think you can't hold it any longer but then someone appreciates you and you realize that you can make it after all.

So thank you for teaching me these wonderful things. I will miss the person I was in high school but now I am off to new and better things. There's a lot to do and never enough time.

P.S. This was inspired by Pandy's thank you note!

Thoughts of 5:20 AM

November 26, 2012 at 5:37 AM

Two weeks of classes left and then finals. First semester of university almost over. To be honest? It's pretty scary how fast time flies when you are a part of something. When you're watching life go by as a standbier, it crawls on a speed so slow it may have been negative had Physics allowed. But I guess this is the beauty of being conscious and a part of something. Perhaps that's why we wish so ardently that we were a part of something much bigger than ourselves. Because it's nice to be doing something.

I just deleted my Tumblr and I guess I needed to write my thoughts somewhere and this seemed like the ideal place. Cause you know what better way to privatize your thoughts than to post them on the internet. I have a strong feeling I am making up half of these words or using them incorrectly, so I'm going to use the "it's 5 in the morning" excuse to wheedle my way out of that one.

It's sad how I have developed this urge to voice my thoughts. I think it may classify as pride on some level since I strongly believe that my thoughts are worth voicing. But here's the irony, what I am trying to voice is never the same as what I end up voicing. The meaning is lost somewhere between my mind and my pen...err, I mean keyboard. 

To those who read, I thank you. To those who didn't, I don't blame you; I usually end up skimming through posts that are longer than two sentences too. To those who did and are on my friends list but I never really talk to, feel free to comment (or ignore), I promise not to think of you as a creeper.

Night/Morning, people!

Thoughts of 9 PM, Monday Night

November 26, 2012 at 9:17 PM

I just woke up and am in that state where I'm halfway between sleep and wanting to punch anyone who talks to me. Kidding about the latter part, apparently it's not legal or something. 

Today, I decided to be brave with something. Today, I had an epiphany. Today, I dissected a heart. Had I been not so tired the entire time, I would have called it one of my better days. 

I was standing in line for Smoothie King and the person behind me taps on my shoulder and says, "Those glasses are wicked cool." I smile, thank him, and wonder how he could get away with using the word "wicked."

While dissecting, my lab partner tells me how he punches stones everyday to get firmer knuckles. I look at him in disbelief and he answers, "Yeah, man, you know Bruce Lee? He used to do that. I want to be like him." I'm not sure if I'm supposed to praise this so I keep my mouth shut, smile, and go back to dissecting.

Lately, I have been doing that a lot. Rendered speechless so I ignore the world and just smile. Surprising how much you can get out of by smiling. It's a lazy person's ultimate tool. Just keep smiling, just keep smiling. Who knows? You smile at a stranger and it helps them breathe easier. 

I like fountains. I like lying on the grass, watching clouds travel at a speed, and listening to water fall. It is very calming to the mind. Time, in a way, stops there. Your worries can wait. Your next big test is doable. And so on. 

I hate editing but I feel so honored when people ask me to edit their papers or proofread their words. I suck at using words. I don't know grammar. But I like that people associate me with words. Sarah Kay once said, think of five words you want to be defined by and become those words. Writing is definitely a word I want to be associated with.

I am told that I shouldn't wear my dreams on my sleeves. That people are cruel and become obstacles in your path. To them I dare say, you know nothing about dreaming. I am young and proud and arrogant so I suppose I can get away with saying such things. I can get away with having unrealistic dreams and unattainable goals. I have no responsibilities. So for a few moments, I dare to dream.

Thoughts of 1:45 AM, Thursday Morning

November 29, 2012 at 1:59 AM

In all technicalities.

Today was too brutal. It hurts when you're told that you're not good enough. It hurts a lot. 

I realized today that I have my finals in a little over a week. Not a good realization. But I can do it. Or if I repeat it enough number of times, it will be ingrained in my mind. But in actuality if you repeat something enough, it loses all meaning. So, I am back to square one. This is why I don't give pep talks. Because I'd probably end up discouraging the person.

They had fake snow at school today. It made me smile. I made a snowball but then I realized I had walked alone to the area and had no one to throw the snowball at, so I awkwardly put it back down. Then I got hit by one. I wanted to pick the snowbal up and hit back but I didn't know who hit me. 

The Mindy Project is my new favorite show. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, should watch it. I usually can't watch more than an episode of a tv show but I ended up watching all the episodes of it. (There are only seven but that's still a lot.)

This morning, I was at the satellite and I heard these three people having an argument over demons v/s dragons. I swear they brought in neoclassicism and marxism at some point. It was fascinating. I wish I had followed their arguments closely but I was cramming for a class. 

It's too cold in my room. 

Goodnight, people!

Thoughts of 2 PM, Thursday Afternoon

November 30, 2012 at 2:26 AM

I burned my tongue while drinking soup today. I do it every single time. I think Freud’s pigeons would condition not to do something as silly faster than me. 

A friend of mine gave me a handwritten letter today. Yes, people still write letters using a real pen. I love sending emails but letters will hold a special place in my heart, always. There’s something about ink drops on a piece of paper that carry words straight to my heart. Or maybe I am just incredibly bitter about all those years of write-till-fingers-hurt exams. (I loved your letter. You know who you are.)

Yesterday, my professor talked about woods being the most conscious place possible. I am not trying to be cynical or funny but I would be too frustrated by mosquito bites to be conscious of my mind. How do you untangle your mind while you’re getting your blood sucked out of you? I mean it sounds pretty poetic but it’s not very practical. But then again poetry rarely is. I guess that’s why they use physical pain to muster truth out of war criminals and terrorists. We say that the peace of mind is much more precious but when it comes down to it, we choose physical comfort. Always. 

Pain is a funny thing. Our threshold is always higher than what we think it is. And yet, we are terrified of it more than anything. I think it is the single thing that brings us closer to ourselves and yet we run away from it. We are some silly beings.

I'm slowly realizing the importance of individuation in thoughts. I know our thoughts are influenced by everything and anything but it is important to filter thoughts in a way that the ones that bring you intellectual delight have precedence over the others. That might be selfish but I believe it is a necessity. 

I bought coffee today that smelled like nutmeg, cinnamon, and vanilla. It smelled of winter (well pseudo-winter cause I live in Texas). On my way back, I saw Christmas lights. I love this time of the year. I love it so much. People associate cold with darkness and gray and all that is lost. The sun doesn't shine and it is just depressing. But winter reminds me of foggy mornings in Lahore and the evening bonfires, of forgotten tales and late night street cricket. If seasons were places, winter would be home for me.  

P.S. I wrote this in Biology but couldn't find the guts to publish it on Facebook then. 

Thoughts of 6:30 AM, Saturday Morning

December 1, 2012 at 6:45 AM

To those who believe I can’t wake up so early on a weekend, ha!

Yesterday, the professor in her lecture talked about the difference between empathizing with someone’s words and telling their account for them thinking you know how it feels to be them. I had never thought there was a difference. This makes me really sad. How many things have I possibly not thought of? How do you live with that?

I think the weirdest thing for me to hear about myself is that I intimidate or scare people. I don’t think I can ever get used to hearing that. It scares me too, having that much power over someone. 

The neighborhoods around UH break my heart. Every time I am driving through them, I get extremely melancholic. To see the broken houses and middle aged people at home at 10 AM on a weekday just ruins me. Maybe, they work night jobs. Maybe, I am just making false assumptions. Or maybe they are exactly how I see them. I know that I can’t end world suffering and that to be human is to suffer and all that philosophical mumbo jumbo, but how can I ignore what I feel because that’s how things are “supposed” to be. But it’s a good way to keep focus. Sometimes, I forget why I am doing what I am doing. Driving through those places is a very brutal reminder of what needs to be done. I suppose it’s a necessary anguish, it keeps me motivated. 

I was looking through Time's 100 Most Influential people and saw Ali Ferzat up there. Well-known for his political cartoons in Syria. He drew cartoons satirizing Bashar Assad. They found him, beat him up, and broke his hands so he couldn't draw. He let them heal and is back to drawing. It's people like him that inspire me. To be so in love with something that life without it seems impossible. To care about the truth getting out more than personal safety. To live a life giving truth and justice a voice. I dare say, that is religion for me. People who are passionate about something speak to me. Combine that passion with a bit of courage and that is my definition of a hero.  

I am going to pull a Seneca here and end this with a quote. It means nothing and everything, it has just sort of stuck with me since I read it a week ago. It has really pretty diction too.  

For there the least of whispers was kept safe:

it crossed that cleft with words of tenderness

-The Metamorphoses of Ovid

Thoughts of 8:15 AM, Sunday Morning

December 2, 2012 at 8:33 AM

I think early morning is my new favorite time. It is quiet and foggy and chilly. It is beautiful. The kind of weather that coerces you to contemplate everything. Of course, it's not too peaceful since I'm blasting 90's Bollywood music. Not trying to be ethnocentric but desi music is really the best.  

A friend of mine tells me, "Mina, you have the kindest heart. Take care of it, there really aren’t that many." I think this is one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me. It's overwhelming. Remember a few days ago in one of my notes I talked about Sarah Kay and five words? This is another word I want to be associated with. Usually, I fail when it comes to being kind. But it is something that touches me more than anything. I think that if there is one thing that can truly bring a change, it's kindness. People remember kindness. 

Also, questioning my sanity. Why did I choose to take Honors Chem? WHY?

Have a productive Sunday, people.

Thoughts of 12:11 PM, Thursday Afternoon

December 13, 2012 at 12:20 PM

I have been feeling kind of blah lately because of finals and my cold but it's okay. I have my thoughts now.

The kid next to me at the library is explaining to his mama that he is fine, not broken yet. That he's eating enough and getting enough sleep. That she should not worry. I think there is a sweet pleasure in worrying about your loved ones.

There are days where I pause and realize how much I have changed. Today is one such day. Four years ago, I hyperventilated when I had to speak in front of strangers. Now I find comfort in conversations. I have realized that it's okay to let your thoughts be known and heard. That it's okay to say that you make punnett squares in your free time trying to figure out your genes and be thought of as a weirdo. It's okay to let the world see who you really are. In fact, you should find pride in it. Today, I had my oral final for Human Situation. A thirty minute conversation with a professor over literature I have read this semester. Not once did I think I was taking an exam. It felt like a conversation with a really intelligent person who told me she liked my thoughts. I showed her an aspect of me that I usually keep hidden. And you know what? She got excited because she shared similar views. Funny thing, life is. We try to fit certain molds, trim ourselves to make it easier for us. When in reality, weird is good. Weird is memorable. Weird is fun.

Thoughts of 12:01 AM, Tuesday Morning

December 18, 2012 at 12:17 AM

I'm taking a break from Bio cramming. 

There was a weird silence on campus today. Not the kind that's peaceful but the kind that's almost daunting. I realized how huge my university is and how easily people can make it seem so small. You know it's one of those things that you know are true but their truefulness (is that even a word?) never ceases to shock you. Like death. You know it's happening but it still manages to knock the air out of you. But perhaps that's a good thing. There should be things that continue to surprise you and change the core of your existence. That most importantly bring you out of your indifference.

I know this is cheesy but I am so thankful for friends who understand me. In a weird twisted way, they help me be more coherent in my thoughts. 

I haven't written in two months. This makes me really sad and happy at the same time. I need to write soon, though. Fear is a funny cruel thing. Most of the time, I am too scared of not using the correct words. Whatever that means.

The difference between "is" to "was" is merely of two letters. And yet, its magnitude is greater than most things. What was cannot be changed. What is, however, can be. Who was matters less than who is. I think I need to constantly remind myself of this.

Thoughts of 3:02 AM, Friday Morning

December 21, 2012 at 3:13 AM

I thought I wasn't going to write anymore of these because I finally have time to write in my journal but I need to spew somethings. 

I hate reading the news. I hate it so much. Because every time I do, I hear of violence. I hear of injustice. I hear of torture. I hear people being labelled as collateral damage. So much suffering, so much pain. It breaks my heart. But then I wonder about the lives of those for whom this is a reality. I have the privilege of not reading the "news." I can afford to not read the news. I can actually not know what's going on in the world if I ignore the news. But for others, it's a reality. They don't even have the option of "ignoring" the news because what's news to me is reality to them. They are living in what is news to me. I can live a life without knowing what's going on in Palestine. But for Palestinians, they just need to look outside their window. I can live without knowing what happened to the girl in Delhi, but her body screams her reality every second she is alive. I think that this is too much to handle but I forget about people who have no choice but to handle it. 

And with this heavy heart, I bid thee goodnight. I am going to lose myself in a book because I have the privilege of doing so.

Thoughts of 2012

January 1, 2013 at 6:56 PM

Because bullet points are, well, easier to read.

• Sometime last year I read this quote: Find what you love and let it kill you. I don’t know who spoke these words but they had a profound impact on me. We are not waiting to die. We are not “going” to die. We are dying. We die with every passing breath, with every heartbeat, with every second. We die a little every moment. It doesn’t matter whether you like it or not. Disease only expedites the process. Morbid thought, I know. But you know, it made me think of all the things I love and wouldn’t mind dying for. It brought me momentary clarification. 
• It’s so easy to condemn killers. You think of the victim and you start pointing fingers at the man pulling the gun and that’s that. But what about the man pulling the gun? Why does no one point any fingers at his killer? You know why? Because then we will all be pointing those fingers back at ourselves. We form the opinion of right or wrong but we forget that we also create the right and the wrong. We mold people into victims and killers. We, the society. He may pull the trigger but who compels him to?
• You know, we all try to run from our past. From who we were, from who was in our life, from what we did but there really is no redemption except acceptance. There comes a point where you have to accept what you did, who you were, and who was and move on from it. It’s not that moving on is a choice, it’s a necessity. Adaptation. Change. You can be as strong as you want but survival is based on change and change stems from acceptance. 
• Sometimes, it makes me sad how my words are so dependent on your perception of them. How what I say has no value if said to myself. How my thoughts need a portrayal. How I need to use words. How I need to think in words. My thoughts aren’t independent. They are the product of all that I have read and heard. They are not original. They exist because they are molded. Matter can neither be created nor destroyed. My thoughts were neither created by me nor can be destroyed by me. I am just a medium. My words and my thoughts are matter. Matter that doesn’t matter. What a sad thing to think. 
• Books teach you to empathize. I mean normally you’d hear that someone killed someone and you’re likely to condemn the killer. You’d see it as something black and white. But when you read a book, from the perspective of a killer, you realize that you know maybe the killer was provoked. Not saying that the victim should attack (although idk about this….hmm). But what I am saying is that books make you realize that there are a billion screwed up minds out there and that there are a billion screwed up reasons for doing the screwed up things. And all the screwed up reasons are immersed in a gray cloud. And sometimes that gray cloud is lingering towards the white side of the color palette. And that makes you question your lifelong held morality. It shakes your world. It’s like growing up your entire life thinking that sky is blue but then realizing that the blue is really every color but blue because blue is the only color that light reflects. Sometimes when I read books, I can empathize more with murderers than with people who appear to be like me.

Thoughts of 11:05 PM, Sunday Night

January 6, 2013 at 11:04 PM

Eventually, I'll stop writing these. But for the time being, here it goes.

i. Often, I wonder what goes through the minds of people the society deems to be criminals. I am curious as to what the person's thoughts are that lead to killing someone, or raping someone, etc. I want to know what Mengel was thinking while experimenting on all those people. I am trying to understand. I just want to know where the boundary lies between sanity and insanity. I am not condoning their actions. Please believe me when I say that. But I would like to see things from their perspective, for the sake of my curiosity. 

ii. A friend of mine tells me that I am one of the most well-read people they know. Another tells me that I never tolerate mediocre books or shows. I don't agree with their words but it's nice to know that people notice things. 

iii. I have been thinking about this for quite sometime and I realized that I can't befriend people who lack passion. I almost feel sorry for them. People who lack passion seem so lifeless to me. There is no spark in their eyes. No excited babbling about the things they love. They seem so indifferent about everything. 

iv. Here's the thing. Despite what happens to you, despite how much you fall, you don’t have a right to turn yourself into a victim. There will be times when you will be cheated on. There will be times when people will do awful things to you. But you should never let yourself turn into a victim. If someone treats you badly, it’s their flaw. But it’s also your shortcoming that you let them treat you that way without fighting. Someone treats you poorly? You give em hell. You’re not a toy to be played with. It’s okay to lose that fight. But what is not okay is to become a damsel in distress and wait for a savior. You have to save yourself. That is the only way. No one can save you but you.

i am not a poet

January 8, 2013 at 9:31 PM

i. i look under my bed

try to find metaphors

that would somehow beautify these

abstract pieces.

your words are simple, they say.

there’s beauty in simplicity.

ii. there are moments,

when you want to take a person and

rip them apart so

you could fill them up with you

because they simply

don’t understand.

iii. those days when

getting out of bed requires

supernatural strength,

i salute you.

iv. most of the days,

i struggle in finding a way to

put my thoughts in pen

and hit that "publish" button.

it feels like giving up a vital organ.

taking out too much and

presenting it on a platter

for the entire world to be ogled at.

it's too damned scary.

Thoughts of 1 AM, Friday Night-Saturday Early Morning (ish?)

January 12, 2013 at 1:01 AM

"It's the words, man. It's always the words."

You are right. Often, words can be sharper than daggers. They can slice through your heart. You know that the person speaking those words has best intentions at heart. You know that they mean well. But that doesn’t lessen the effect of those words. They still manage to shear through your skeletal muscles. You think that since it’s one of the strongest muscles in your body, it would put up a better fight. You think that surely nothing as simple as a few words could puncture your heart. You deem yourself to be stronger than that. But alas, you’re not. And that is a brutal realization. You’re angry. But the anger isn’t towards the speaker of those words. It’s towards yourself. For caring too much. For caring at all. For letting yourself be human. For letting yourself get hurt.

I deem an author to be a "good one" when they can make me empathize. If they can't, I blame it all on their lack of penmanship and not on my lack of empathy. I have a feeling that is an awful thing to do.

That is all.

Thoughts of 5:35 AM, Wednesday Morning

January 16, 2013 at 5:45 AM

• My sleep schedule is a joke. 
• Note to Self: Do more. Think more. Listen more. Speak less. 
• “I am not here to tell you how good you are. I am here to tell you how far you need to go to be worth a damn in my eyes.”-Modernity Prof. I love teachers like that. I love teachers who care more about your education than your feelings. I don't care for sugar coated words and left handed compliments. If I suck at something, tell me straight up. I'd be damned if I don't try my best to improve but even if I don't, I'll be the one to blame.
• On Monday, I met someone who has four degrees and is working on a fifth one. Gosh, I love people who're in love with education. I love people who want to learn, for the sake of learning and knowing things. That may have something to do with the umpteen educators in my family. And to think I created a havoc when I was asked to do homework back in kindergarten.
• School makes me happy. I don't care how nerdy or geeky it sounds, school makes me happy. I love the caffeine highs and the humdrum of a normal weekday at an educational institution. 

That is all.

Thoughts of 2:11 PM, Friday Afternoon

January 18, 2013 at 2:14 PM

• Let the sun wash over us as we find comfort in our ambiguity and ignorance. For a few minutes, let us forget of all that has burdened us and live like a five year old on a birthday. Let us forget all the bygones, let us forget all the to-be's, let us truly breathe in this moment and carve it in our memories. So much so that when our eyes refuse to cooperate, when we can't hear ourselves breathe, when we have to depend on another to walk two feet, we still remember the sheer vivaciousness of this moment. When we are hurt, we look back to this hour and remember all that is possible. All that can be. Let us breathe in the life, the wild spirit of youth.
• How sad is it that the words the author struggles with, the words the author gives birth to, are never really truly his. They belong to the muse and the reader. And yet, the author goes through hell to voice them. The beauty of penmanship lies in this sadness.

Thoughts of 8:23 PM, Tuesday Night

January 22, 2013 at 8:34 PM

I think the only way to truly gain knowledge is to coalesce it in your life. To live that knowledge everyday. To breathe and think of what you know and where you can go from there. To become your knowledge. It is so interesting how things you learned years ago, how things you never thought could help you, resurface right when you need them. Regardless of how much you claim to hate school, of how homework makes you hate education, it is important to remember that there are people out there who'd give anything to get the kind of education you are getting. One must not ever underestimate the value of schooling and good teachers and healthy friends. I am just realizing how lucky I have been in this matter. I have had the privilege of getting educated by some of the most knowledgeable and inspirational teachers, who truly helped me learn and grow as a person. I have had the privilege of acquaintances, who dare I call friends, with passion and purpose and kindness and a yearning for a better self. There are flaws in everyone. There are times we all fall short. I think it is important to realize that by the end of the day, we are all human. 

Last week in a lecture my professor said, you don't have to die to go to hell. I have been thinking about that a lot. I haven't formed a conclusive thought but I think I can empathize with the depressed.

Kaleidoscopic Moments

March 24, 2013 at 9:54 PM

The cries of bruised egos mantle my thoughts tonight. I think of the time when I was six and swinging on this swing and the sun was setting and I just kept swinging because I truly believed that I could reach the sky. A cup of tea and your memories keep me warm on this cold bitter night in late-March. As winter and March refuse to line up, so do my thoughts. The universe is restless in its infinities and you are restless in your thoughts and perhaps the two aren’t different at all. You close your eyes for a few minutes as your favorite song plays. You already know all the words by heart. Heck, they’re probably a poster in your room. But you feel the impact of those words again. You notice a phrase that you loathed once that now fits in your life perfectly. It's a weird coming-home-after-months kinda sensation. The only difference is, you can finally smell what your home smells like. 

Empty Amusement Parks

May 14, 2013 at 12:12 AM

With its creaking Ferris Wheel singing an ode to the muses of dawn, you worship the silence and ambiguity. A few seconds of peace, the chirping of memories from the past, the hues of filled chairs: it’s all in a layer of fog surrounding your mind. Listen to the quiet that is before the chaos. To the lull that ensues before the storm and the stillness that makes you forget how to breathe right before an applause. We seek vengeance. There is surely something romantic in raging a war against the universe. The paradox of it all, thus, lies in its very state of existence. No number of crumpled pieces of paper could ever take it away from you. It’s all there in your skin and bones. Decomposition, perhaps, is then the answer. 

thoughts and stuffs

June 1, 2013 at 6:54 PM

a few things I have realized/remembered in the past few days

• if you wake up early between 7-9 am and do 20 minutes of yoga, your day goes great
• simple things make a difference. you think people don’t notice but they really do.
• when people leave, even if it’s just one person, you feel like a part of you has gone missing. it’s a weird feeling. but although it is saddening, sometimes people leaving is a good thing. sometimes it’s the thing you need and not necessarily want
• good books, good music, good conversations, heck even good coffee can make a huge difference. you don’t necessarily need to party through a weekend to feel alive. i think, to an extent, being alive means being able to enjoy simple things. like a pretty blue mockingbird.
• never.google.baby pigeons. seriously, worst decision in the past few days. they are ugly and creepy.
• sometimes you need to go to a park and swing your thoughts away. heck, you should swing all the time if you can. while swinging you should close your eyes or just stare at the clouds. clouds are always pretty.
• i love lists. really, i love lists.
• i also love coffee.
• i love lists about coffee
• but i despise weak coffee
• and instant coffee